I’m not going to start preaching on the importance of feeling good about yourself and let everyone down by slipping in a couple of clichés. But I would like to talk about what most people already know.
Consider this sentence:
What you think- is in your head.
At first this sentence seems too obvious to make any sense. Of course everything I think is in my head, you might say.
But think about it then. If you can accept that you actually make up your views of the world from the inside of your skull. You then have no other option then to also accept that if you change your views – you change the world.
Namely:
The concept of the world is in your own imagination.
I think that the understanding of how we perceive reality is one of the best known ideas we have, but it’s also one of the most underestimated facts that is out there. We print t-shirts with slogans like: “think positive and the world will smile back on you” without ever realizing what it actually means.
If you want to change the way you think, you first need to understand where you get them from.
You could argue that the body with its limitations is a restriction for the soul. We have all sometimes felt the longing for freedom escaping this worlds boundaries, wanting to be free of the imagined prison which comes from inhabiting a frail body and in extension; living in a world with it’s limitations.
Life as a prison
Growing up, I had the unrelenting feeling that the harsh and troubled life I felt I was living, couldn’t possibly be anything else than a living hell. Although I knew that there must be something other than pain, I couldn’t find it wherever I looked and whatever I did. Life were my prison. But what I didn’t know was that I were my own most overzealous prison guard.
Whatever accomplishment or progress I would do; in my mind I couldn’t be free of the underlining feeling of hindrance. I thought that there would always, no matter what, be pain in my life. Somehow I had gotten to think that trouble and struggle were the foundation and framework for all life.
I would tell my self this fact - every day. No matter what happened or how happy I would get I always reminded myself of this fact. Because I didn’t know what else to do!
Can you see the unfolding pattern here? How can anything be good if I already had made up my mind that in the end everything would end up in pain anyhow.
It didn’t make any difference if there would be periods of happiness. In the end something bad would eventually happen and the circle would complete itself again.
Life is a prison for the soul if you believe that it is. The fact is that life is filled with circumstances and situations involving: happiness, pain, sorrow, anger, love and whatever you can imagine.
It’s like turning on a switch in the mind where you go from identifying with what happens in your life, to being the experiencer of the experiences.
A friend approached me the other day and expressed anxiety about the difficulties of becoming free of the constant stream of negative thoughts in the mind.
We all know that there are a constant ongoing thought process where negative thoughts get repeated over and over again. It’s mainly the same sad unproductive thoughts telling you that whatever you are is of no value, or that you won’t succeed in anything that you want to do.
The mind can be very cruel in this way. Sometimes it might even seem as if the mind is your own enemy, constantly trying to keep you on the ground, preventing you from standing up.
There is no doubt that an uncontrolled mind can hurt you. Or as the Buddha said in the Dhammapada:
Your worst enemy cannot harm you
As much as your own thoughts, unguarded.
The mind is Change. Everything that the mind is, is what is around it. If the world around the mind changes, then naturally the mind changes also. No wonder that we feel that the mind seems to work against us rather then with us. If the mind is so easily influenced by whatever it focuses on, then naturally there are many pains and worries that you will face if you identify with your mind. Continue reading ‘Working with the negative mind’